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Barbara Maisel hilft, wenn Eltern streiten und Kinder leiden

Lesedauer: 7 Minuten
Insa Gall
Nach einer Trennung geht der Streit manchmal auf Kosten der Kinder weiter.

Nach einer Trennung geht der Streit manchmal auf Kosten der Kinder weiter.

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Familienberaterin vermittelt zwischen Müttern und Vätern, die nach Trennung Hilfe bei Umsetzung von Besuchsregeln brauchen.

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Eltern üben in Rollenspielen, wie sich ihr Kind fühlt

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Paarprobleme nicht auf dem Rücken der Kinder austragen

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Es gibt Momente, die auch Maisel sehr berühren

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Barbara Maisel ist zu Beginn oft nicht willkommen

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