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Wichtiges Date? Warum der erste Eindruck entscheidend ist

Lesedauer: 3 Minuten
Maren Schürmann
Im Film „50 First Dates“ mit Drew Barrymore und Adam Sandler spielt das erste Kennenlernen eine entscheidende Rolle.

Im Film „50 First Dates“ mit Drew Barrymore und Adam Sandler spielt das erste Kennenlernen eine entscheidende Rolle.

Foto: dpa Picture-Alliance / ©Columbia Pictures/Courtesy Ever / picture alliance / Everett Colle

Warum ein Spruch, ein Blick alle Hoffnungen zerstören kann: Der erste Eindruck ist beim Date oft endgültig – aber nicht immer richtig.

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