Fernbeziehungen

Der lange Fluch über die Entfernung der Liebe

Lesedauer: 8 Minuten
Thomas Andre

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Sie lebt in Hamburg, er in Berlin. Oder er wohnt in Deutschland, die Familie in den USA. Fernbeziehungen schaffen Weltfamilien, sagen Soziologen.

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