„Stark auch ohne Muckis“

Buchautor und Coach erklärt was gegen Mobbing hilft

Lesedauer: 8 Minuten
Insa Gall
Hat seine Stärken erkannt: Daniel Duddek bildet Coachs aus.

Hat seine Stärken erkannt: Daniel Duddek bildet Coachs aus.

Foto: Marceloa Hernandez

Coach Daniel Duddek war früher selbst Opfer. Jetzt stärkt er Kindern und Eltern den Rücken. Das sind seine Tipps für Betroffene.

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Coach war früher Opfer von Mobbing

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Engagement in Theater-AG und als Kampfkunsttrainer

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Fokus auf das Gute

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Bedürfnisse hinter Mobbing ergründen

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Nicht abwiegeln, sondern das eigene Kind stärken

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=tuspoh?Mftfo Tjf bvdi;=0tuspoh?

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„Lerne, ein Schutzschild aufzubauen"

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Raus aus den sozialen Medien

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Erziehungsstil beeinflusst, wie leicht Kind zum Opfer wird

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