Erziehung

Kinderpsychiater: „Viele Mütter sind sehr angestrengt“

Lesedauer: 9 Minuten
Marc Hasse

Foto: Bertold Fabricius

Noch immer tragen Frauen die Hauptlast der Erziehung, sagt der Hamburger Kinderpsychiater Michael Schulte-Markwort.

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